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Zade's avatar

I was a scruffy tomboy. I always loved boys. Boys seemed to have fun in ways off limits to "ladylike" girls. It was fun roughhousing with them, exploring local patches of woods, building bridges across creeks using fallen branches, even playing football with them. All this ended when I went off to seventh grade and the interest turned romantic. Now, if my teachers had kept asking me: are you a boy or a girl, I can only imagine the destruction that would have wrought. It was safe to be a tomboy because I knew I wasn't a boy and the boys knew it too. They were gentle with me in ways they weren't with each other. I'm afraid we're destroying one of the ways kids learn to appreciate the opposite sex.

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Mrs. Miau Miau's avatar

You are quickly becoming my favorite substack. This post reminds me why I am so vehemently against SEL in schools as well. The constant prodding about emotions and feelings, and then some schools collect the survey data… for whatever purposes, who knows. This is also related to why play is so important, kids don’t need adult-directed SEL, they need to play and work it out themselves (to the extent that they can). Good post.

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