I see nothing affirming about denying help that is needed. Learning to deal with reality is part of growing up. Telling anyone, especially children, that there are no boundaries is dangerous. I’m not advocating for over-protection, in fact, I believe kids need a lot of freedom. However, to tell my child that there are no consequences for our choices and actions is negligent. Pretty much every action has benefit and/or consequence. Teaching our kids to recognize and tell themselves (and others) THE TRUTH is a huge part of loving them. We all have to learn to count the cost of our actions. Adults promoting the belief that choices come without cost and do not stand in the gap for those who are to young to understand this concept are negligent at best. And I agree that this is sinister and that angers me.
I see nothing affirming about denying help that is needed. Learning to deal with reality is part of growing up. Telling anyone, especially children, that there are no boundaries is dangerous. I’m not advocating for over-protection, in fact, I believe kids need a lot of freedom. However, to tell my child that there are no consequences for our choices and actions is negligent. Pretty much every action has benefit and/or consequence. Teaching our kids to recognize and tell themselves (and others) THE TRUTH is a huge part of loving them. We all have to learn to count the cost of our actions. Adults promoting the belief that choices come without cost and do not stand in the gap for those who are to young to understand this concept are negligent at best. And I agree that this is sinister and that angers me.